In my last entry, I talked to you about my “setback” – well, there have been a few days of processing as well as a few days of ignoring it, and while I am moving forward, the path with my next steps is not all that clear yet. Of course, I have shared the details with a few close family and friends, and being the good family and friends that they are, have definitely supported me and my view of what happened. I probably should share this with an unbiased person who does not know anyone involved, but I am not sure if I want to spend that kind of time on it. Another interesting thing that I seem to be noticing is that the accusations against my character are not shared with others in similar roles. While I am trying to be open to accepting my contributions to whatever real or imagined issues there are, it is starting to sound like it is more personal and not about behavior or performance. In some ways that is a relief, but in other ways that is disappointing.
I have quickly realized that I am standing at a crossroads. As I write this, so much has happened in the last month, and I have hardly had the time to reflect on it. But, I sense that this is the time to really stand up and do something that matches what I value. What is more important? Being there for my family and friends? Pleasing everyone I come into contact with every day? Spending my time worrying about whether everyone likes me? I feel very confident about those answers, but do my actions truly reflect that? This is a big deal for me, and I am fortunate enough that I get the chance to think it through. I don’t want to have a knee jerk reaction, but I also don’t want to miss an opportunity to be more authentic with my life. I am hoping for some more clarity soon.